Dating someone with a troubled past
It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.
For best results, clear all distractions from your environment.
Receive it lovingly, with patience, and let them tell their entire side of the story without interrupting. Recognize that, even if you didn’t mean to hurt them in the slightest, it takes real vulnerability and courage for your partner to voice frustration/resentment/discomfort with something that occurred between the two of you.
Sincerely thank them for sharing their thoughts with you (it’s not an easy thing to do for most people), and follow up by apologizing for the incident, or asking what you can do or say to help them feel more complete about the event.
While I don’t believe that you need to shine a light on absolutely everything in the dark subconscious of your mind in order to have a healthy relationship, it is good to uproot the major things that get swept under the rug.
Whether it was something that you thought was insignificant, or an argument that you had that you thought was thoroughly squashed, your partner’s answer to this question might surprise you.
In the day to day of our relationships, a lot of stuff can get swept under the rug.