Dating too soon after death
I felt used up and assumed my situation would frighten off any guy.I was flipping through the channels one evening when I came across a familiar flick, He's Just Not That Into You.If I was ever going to get back out there, I needed to be prepared. Prebook, I felt depressed, insecure, and vulnerable. If there is one issue that can create division, and even anger, in a room full of widows and widowers, it’s the topic of dating after the loss of a spouse.Is it that the endeavor seems worthless as there will simply never EVER be someone as perfect for us as the partner we lost?And is it fair that a griever has to cope with this tremendous grief while also answering questions from family and friends about whether they plan to date again?
Then I remembered it was originally a book, a dating guide for single girls.
Of all the subjects in all the groups that I’ve ever facilitated, this may be the most controversial.
For some, just the mention of dating again can cause such a negative and visceral reaction -I’ve seen grievers walk out of presentations where this topic was only one small part of the conversation. Does it a feel like a sense of betrayal to the deceased?
Believe that they have good intentions for you, thank them for their concern, and move on with what you know is right for you without letting anyone else’s influence shake the foundation that you are trying to rebuild.
: so here we are on the other side of the equation with grievers who may feel that they are ready to start dating again.